Have you ever been called a “slut”? If so, how did you feel? Whether you are sexually active or not the term can be hurtful and embarrassing. If you’re a parent of a teen, have you heard about “slut” shaming and the dire effects it can have on your impressionable teenager? “Slut” shaming and sexual bullying […]
Being Relational: The Seven Ways to Quality Interaction and Lasting Change by Louise Phipps Senft and William Senft, details seven ways of being in relation to others that is grounded in over thirty years of conflict resolution experience and captures the very heart and soul of all that is self-help. These ways of being promote quality […]
Louise and William Senft’s new book, Being Relational: The Seven Ways to Quality Interaction and Lasting Change, details seven ways of being in relation to others that capture the heart and soul of all that is self-help, grounded in method, and supported by relational conflict theory and brain science findings. The ways of being […]Continue Reading →
You can now download or stream my conversation with Sharon Ellison as we discuss strategies and techniques to take the war out of your words. You can hear Sharon demonstrate how defuse defensiveness, often instantly and how to use these skills whether you are talking to a co-worker or are a manager needing to […]Continue Reading →
How long does it take to get defensive? What kind of impact does it have? Listen in on Tuesday, 5/12 at 8 pm Eastern as Sharon Ellison demonstrates how to defuse defensiveness, often instantly, whether you are talking to a co-worker or are a manager needing to give feedback to an employee.
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Many ADR professionals saw the headlines when an angry mediation participant shot two other participants (an attorney and client) at a Phoenix law firm in 2013. That […]Continue Reading →
In many situations we see our decisions as an ‘either/or’ dilemma. Author and Ph.D. Bernie Mayer argues in his new book, The Conflict Paradox, Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes, that the real challenge is to find a new path that incorporates both approaches. These apparently opposing conflict practices need not […]Continue Reading →
Conflict Resolvers routinely enter into conversations and circumstances most would choose to avoid. These conversations can contain some of the strongest emotional triggers, and create the most stressful situations, that we may ever experience. Register now to attend my ADRHub webinar on safety planning that will take place on 3/25 at 6 pm Eastern. Registration […]Continue Reading →
In many situations we see our decisions as an ‘either/or’ dilemma. Author and Ph.D. Bernie Mayer argues in his new book, The Conflict Paradox, Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes, that the real challenge is to find a new path that incorporates both approaches. These apparently opposing conflict practices need not be […]Continue Reading →
If you missed my program with Columbia University Professor Peter T. Coleman you can listen, download or stream it from the player below. We discussed seven strategies from his new book Making Conflict Work: Harnessing the Power of Disagreement. Whether you are a manager or an employee, you can uses theses strategies to navigate […]Continue Reading →
About MeHelping people resolve problems and improve their performance under stressful circumstances is Stephen’s passion and profession. With a Masters degree in Conflict Analysis and Resolution from George Mason’s Institute for Conflict Analysis and Resolution, Stephen has substantial experience in mediation, negotiation, facilitation, conflict coaching, conflict management and somatic education. His professional experience spans state and federal government agencies and two premier conflict resolution membership associations. Stephen has also become a national expert on how you can improve your performance by better managing the stress of conflict situations. He has taught hundreds the somatic skills they needed to remain calm in stressful conflict situations as an adjunct faculty member of the School of Conflict Analysis and Resolution at George Mason University and through seminars that he has presented at conferences nationwide.
Specialties: Stephen presents workshops nationally and internationally that teach problem solvers how to improve their performance by learning to better manage the stress of conflict situations through the development of somatic (body) skills focused on breath, posture, and vision and the cultivation of self-awareness. These skills originate from the Japanese martial art of Aikido and have been used by martial artists, executives, law enforcement, athletes and professionals to remain calm in the midst of the storm.