The Association for Conflict Resolution and Verbal Atemi

The Association for Conflict Resolution and Verbal Atemi

I head out this week to attend the Association for Conflict Resolution 2016 Annual Conference in Baltimore, Maryland. The Association for Conflict Resolution is one of the largest membership associations for conflict resolution professionals. ACR serves mediator, negotiators, ombuds, educators, academics and peacemakers from across the country and internationally.

I’ll be presenting on the concept of verbal atemi, that has it’s origins in Japanese martial arts. Mark Andres give a great examples of this in his book Sweet Fruit from the Bitter Tree. The idea in is to say or do something that unbalances your attacker. You don’t want to make them angry, just confused – and in the confusion redirect their attention and intention:

Please join us at ACR this week and feel free to stop by and say hello if you are. I’ll be presenting on Friday morning.

All the best and see you there!

Stephen

Current Events Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter and Stephen Kotev – Listen in on 9/27 at 8 pm Eastern

Current Events Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter and Stephen Kotev – Listen in on 9/27 at 8 pm Eastern

Got Conflict? If you have a conflict with someone and are not sure how to handle it, then let us know. Here is your opportunity to ask your question with Conflict Management experts who are mediators, conflict coaches and facilitators on how to think about, analyze or resolve your situation.

Think about it. Are you currently engaged in an active conflict with your co-workers or boss? Ignoring your neighbor because of a conversation you don’t want to have? In a disagreement with your spouse? Or simply afraid to bring up a concern with a friend in fear of stirring up problems.

Join us live. Here is how:

  • Call 347-324-3591; press 1 and wait for a Host
  • Use the Reply box below to post your question or conflict situation
  • Join us in the chat room live at Blog Talk Radio on the night of the program. Post your comment or question here and we will bring it into the program.
  • Join our Live Twitter chat using #ConflictChat every Tuesday night at 5 pm Pacific/7pm Central/8 pm Eastern

Georgetown bound!

Georgetown bound!

I am pleased to announce that I have been accepted into Georgetown University’s Leadership Coaching Certification Program! I am looking forward to making new friends, expanding my skillset and deepening my knowledge of coaching. Georgetown offers a comprehensive, insightful and challenging program that I have been interested attending in for years.

 

My ultimate goal is to acquire International Coaching Federation certification. As a life-long conflict resolver, I deal with leaders all the time. As the field of conflict resolution matures, so does its integration of coaching skillsets. I am quite interested in this intersection and how my expertise in somatics can be applied to coaching.

 

I should be in for quite an adventure – and I am looking forward to it.

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – Now available for Download or Streaming

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – Now available for Download or Streaming

You can now download or stream my conversation with Luke Archer from the player below. We discussed how Verbal Aikido is a means of communication that enables the practitioner to transform verbal attacks, both effectively and peacefully. This philosophy comes from the Japanese martial art of Aikido that seeks to transform ‘attackers’ into training partners. It’s a fun and easy-to-learn approach that can be learnt from ages as young as 5 years old. Regular practice of Verbal Aikido considerably increases self-esteem, altruism and the confidence to manage conflict in a self-affirming and harmonious manner.

As an Aikido black belt and life-long student of conflict resolution, I deeply enjoyed this conversation – and I hope you do too.

 

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – 8/23 at 8 pm Eastern

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – 8/23 at 8 pm Eastern

Verbal Aikido is a means of communication that enables the practitioner to transform verbal attacks, both effectively and peacefully. This philosophy comes from the Japanese martial art of Aikido that seeks to transform ‘attackers’ into training partners. It’s a fun and easy-to-learn approach that can be learnt from ages as young as 5 years old. Regular practice of Verbal Aikido considerably increases self-esteem, altruism and the confidence to manage conflict in a self-affirming and harmonious manner. Listen in on Tuesday, August 23rd at 8 pm Eastern to learn more.

As an Aikido black belt and a life-long student of conflict resolution, I really am looking forward to this program!

Waltzing with Wolverines: working with “troubled” teens – full archived program now available

Waltzing with Wolverines: working with “troubled” teens – full archived program now available

You can now download or stream my recent conversation with Mark Andreas from the player below.  We discussed the key principles to building relationship and trust with any teenager, whether “troubled” or not. Want to know how to set effective boundaries, how to avoid ever getting into a power control battle, and how to have a whole lot of fun in the process? In a job where average length of employment is measured in months, and many last only weeks, Mark Andreas not only survived, but thrived while working round-the- clock with troubled teens. Whether you are a parent, a teacher, a youth leader, or anyone wanting to connect with and support the teens in your life, come learn how to build relationships that are simultaneously more empowering for you and the teens you work with.

 

 

Waltzing With Wolverines: Working With “Troubled” Teens – Listen in on 8/9 at 8 pm Eastern

Waltzing With Wolverines: Working With “Troubled” Teens – Listen in on 8/9 at 8 pm Eastern

Join us on Tuesday, August 9th at 8 pm Eastern to learn the key principles to building relationship and trust with any teenager, whether “troubled” or not. Want to know how to set effective boundaries, how to avoid ever getting into a power control battle, and how to have a whole lot of fun in the process? In a job where average length of employment is measured in months, and many last only weeks, Mark Andreas not only survived, but thrived while working round-the- clock with troubled teens. Whether you are a parent, a teacher, a youth leader, or anyone wanting to connect with and support the teens in your life, come learn how to build relationships that are simultaneously more empowering for you and the teens you work with.

The Conflict Paradox: Seven Dilemmas We Must Understand To Resolve Conflict

The Conflict Paradox: Seven Dilemmas We Must Understand To Resolve Conflict

This week I will be presenting at the National Center for ADR’s annual conference in Greenbelt, MD. I will be discussing Bernie Mayer’s new book The Conflict Paradox: Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes and how those paradoxes affect how we understand and respond to problems.

This is a fascinating topic that I strongly recommend anyone who wants to improve their problem solving skills to attend. Understanding how these paradoxes influence our behavior and outlook is absolutely instrumental to becoming a better leader and conflict resolver.

4/26 Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter, Stephen Kotev and Abigail R. C. McManus is now available for download and streaming

4/26 Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter, Stephen Kotev and Abigail R. C. McManus is now available for download and streaming

In this week’s conflict chat we discussed the tragic death of New Orleans Saints star defensive end Will Smith and what happens to you when someone becomes emotionally hijacked. Listen in to learn how to better control these responses and better avoid classic mistakes when dealing with emotional and upset people.

 

Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter, Stephen Kotev and Abigail R. C. McManus – Listen in on Tuesday, 4/26 at 8 pm Eastern

Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter, Stephen Kotev and Abigail R. C. McManus – Listen in on Tuesday, 4/26 at 8 pm Eastern

Got Conflict? If you have a conflict with someone, and are not sure how to handle it, then let us know. Here is your opportunity to ask your question with Conflict Management experts who are mediators, conflict coaches and facilitators on how to think about, analyze or resolve your situation.

Think about it. Are you currently engaged in an active conflict with your co-workers or boss? Ignoring your neighbor because of a conversation you don’t want to have? In a disagreement with your spouse? Or simply afraid to bring up a concern with a friend in fear of stirring up problems.

Join us live. Here is how:

  • Call 347-324-3591; press 1 and wait for a Host
  • Use the Reply box below to post your question or conflict situation
  • Join us in the chat room live at Blog Talk Radio on the night of the program. Post your comment or question here and we will bring it into the program.
  • Join our Live Twitter chat using #ConflictChat every Tuesday night at 5 pm Pacific/7pm Central/8 pm Eastern