The Day After…The Election: How To Talk Politics or Not With Friends, Family And Coworkers – Download or Streaming now available

The Day After…The Election: How To Talk Politics or Not With Friends, Family And Coworkers – Download or Streaming now available

So Trump won. Now what?

Here are some tips for how to handle this conversation with others:

  1. Be a good winner/loser – do it with grace and respect
  2. Don’t take it personally
  3. Dig deeper – listen and then listen again.
  4. Cite and check your and their sources
  5. Keep it in perspective – remember why you are talking to them and why that’s important – or not
  6. Embrace your country and love thy neighbor

We live in a great country. The United States of America. United we stand. Let us pause and reflect. What has happened? What did we miss? Do we really understand those that we disagree with.

Let us commit to doing better, not giving up on each other, and learning from our mistakes. It’s our only way forward.

 

 

The Day After…The Election: How To Talk Politics or Not With Friends, Family And Coworkers – Listen in tonight at 8 pm EST

The Day After…The Election: How To Talk Politics or Not With Friends, Family And Coworkers – Listen in tonight at 8 pm EST

So contentious presidential election is finally over with! It is either the best or worst day for America for some of us. Some will gloat over the win, others exhibit anger for the loss, or maybe we just keep our mouth shut so as not to engage in conflict? So how do you talk to your friends, co-workers, and family about politics and not get burned in the process? Learn how two conflict resolution experts, Pattie Porter and Stephen Kotev, help others say what they really mean and hear what really matters from those they don’t agree with.

Conflict Chat: Mean Tweets – Implications for Erupting Fights and Strategies to Disengage – Listen in tonight at 8 pm Eastern

Conflict Chat: Mean Tweets – Implications for Erupting Fights and Strategies to Disengage – Listen in tonight at 8 pm Eastern

Got Conflict? If you have a conflict with someone and are not sure how to handle it, then let us know. Here is your opportunity to ask your question with Conflict Management experts who are mediators, conflict coaches and facilitators on how to think about, analyze or resolve your situation.

Think about it. Are you currently engaged in an active conflict with your co-workers or boss? Ignoring your neighbor because of a conversation you don’t want to have? In a disagreement with your spouse? Or simply afraid to bring up a concern with a friend in fear of stirring up problems.

Join us live. Here is how:

  • Call 347-324-3591; press 1 and wait for a Host
  • Use the Reply box below to post your question or conflict situation
  • Join us in the chat room live at Blog Talk Radio on the night of the program. Post your comment or question here and we will bring it into the program.
  • Join our Live Twitter chat using #ConflictChat every Tuesday night at 5 pm Pacific/7pm Central/8 pm Eastern

The Association for Conflict Resolution and Verbal Atemi

The Association for Conflict Resolution and Verbal Atemi

I head out this week to attend the Association for Conflict Resolution 2016 Annual Conference in Baltimore, Maryland. The Association for Conflict Resolution is one of the largest membership associations for conflict resolution professionals. ACR serves mediator, negotiators, ombuds, educators, academics and peacemakers from across the country and internationally.

I’ll be presenting on the concept of verbal atemi, that has it’s origins in Japanese martial arts. Mark Andres give a great examples of this in his book Sweet Fruit from the Bitter Tree. The idea in is to say or do something that unbalances your attacker. You don’t want to make them angry, just confused – and in the confusion redirect their attention and intention:

Please join us at ACR this week and feel free to stop by and say hello if you are. I’ll be presenting on Friday morning.

All the best and see you there!

Stephen

Current Events Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter and Stephen Kotev – Listen in on 9/27 at 8 pm Eastern

Current Events Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter and Stephen Kotev – Listen in on 9/27 at 8 pm Eastern

Got Conflict? If you have a conflict with someone and are not sure how to handle it, then let us know. Here is your opportunity to ask your question with Conflict Management experts who are mediators, conflict coaches and facilitators on how to think about, analyze or resolve your situation.

Think about it. Are you currently engaged in an active conflict with your co-workers or boss? Ignoring your neighbor because of a conversation you don’t want to have? In a disagreement with your spouse? Or simply afraid to bring up a concern with a friend in fear of stirring up problems.

Join us live. Here is how:

  • Call 347-324-3591; press 1 and wait for a Host
  • Use the Reply box below to post your question or conflict situation
  • Join us in the chat room live at Blog Talk Radio on the night of the program. Post your comment or question here and we will bring it into the program.
  • Join our Live Twitter chat using #ConflictChat every Tuesday night at 5 pm Pacific/7pm Central/8 pm Eastern

Georgetown bound!

Georgetown bound!

I am pleased to announce that I have been accepted into Georgetown University’s Leadership Coaching Certification Program! I am looking forward to making new friends, expanding my skillset and deepening my knowledge of coaching. Georgetown offers a comprehensive, insightful and challenging program that I have been interested attending in for years.

 

My ultimate goal is to acquire International Coaching Federation certification. As a life-long conflict resolver, I deal with leaders all the time. As the field of conflict resolution matures, so does its integration of coaching skillsets. I am quite interested in this intersection and how my expertise in somatics can be applied to coaching.

 

I should be in for quite an adventure – and I am looking forward to it.

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – Now available for Download or Streaming

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – Now available for Download or Streaming

You can now download or stream my conversation with Luke Archer from the player below. We discussed how Verbal Aikido is a means of communication that enables the practitioner to transform verbal attacks, both effectively and peacefully. This philosophy comes from the Japanese martial art of Aikido that seeks to transform ‘attackers’ into training partners. It’s a fun and easy-to-learn approach that can be learnt from ages as young as 5 years old. Regular practice of Verbal Aikido considerably increases self-esteem, altruism and the confidence to manage conflict in a self-affirming and harmonious manner.

As an Aikido black belt and life-long student of conflict resolution, I deeply enjoyed this conversation – and I hope you do too.

 

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – 8/23 at 8 pm Eastern

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – 8/23 at 8 pm Eastern

Verbal Aikido is a means of communication that enables the practitioner to transform verbal attacks, both effectively and peacefully. This philosophy comes from the Japanese martial art of Aikido that seeks to transform ‘attackers’ into training partners. It’s a fun and easy-to-learn approach that can be learnt from ages as young as 5 years old. Regular practice of Verbal Aikido considerably increases self-esteem, altruism and the confidence to manage conflict in a self-affirming and harmonious manner. Listen in on Tuesday, August 23rd at 8 pm Eastern to learn more.

As an Aikido black belt and a life-long student of conflict resolution, I really am looking forward to this program!