Facilitation

The Association for Conflict Resolution and Verbal Atemi

The Association for Conflict Resolution and Verbal Atemi

I head out this week to attend the Association for Conflict Resolution 2016 Annual Conference in Baltimore, Maryland. The Association for Conflict Resolution is one of the largest membership associations for conflict resolution professionals. ACR serves mediator, negotiators, ombuds, educators, academics and peacemakers from across the country and internationally.

I’ll be presenting on the concept of verbal atemi, that has it’s origins in Japanese martial arts. Mark Andres give a great examples of this in his book Sweet Fruit from the Bitter Tree. The idea in is to say or do something that unbalances your attacker. You don’t want to make them angry, just confused – and in the confusion redirect their attention and intention:

Please join us at ACR this week and feel free to stop by and say hello if you are. I’ll be presenting on Friday morning.

All the best and see you there!

Stephen

Current Events Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter and Stephen Kotev – Listen in on 9/27 at 8 pm Eastern

Current Events Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter and Stephen Kotev – Listen in on 9/27 at 8 pm Eastern

Got Conflict? If you have a conflict with someone and are not sure how to handle it, then let us know. Here is your opportunity to ask your question with Conflict Management experts who are mediators, conflict coaches and facilitators on how to think about, analyze or resolve your situation.

Think about it. Are you currently engaged in an active conflict with your co-workers or boss? Ignoring your neighbor because of a conversation you don’t want to have? In a disagreement with your spouse? Or simply afraid to bring up a concern with a friend in fear of stirring up problems.

Join us live. Here is how:

  • Call 347-324-3591; press 1 and wait for a Host
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  • Join our Live Twitter chat using #ConflictChat every Tuesday night at 5 pm Pacific/7pm Central/8 pm Eastern

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – 8/23 at 8 pm Eastern

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – 8/23 at 8 pm Eastern

Verbal Aikido is a means of communication that enables the practitioner to transform verbal attacks, both effectively and peacefully. This philosophy comes from the Japanese martial art of Aikido that seeks to transform ‘attackers’ into training partners. It’s a fun and easy-to-learn approach that can be learnt from ages as young as 5 years old. Regular practice of Verbal Aikido considerably increases self-esteem, altruism and the confidence to manage conflict in a self-affirming and harmonious manner. Listen in on Tuesday, August 23rd at 8 pm Eastern to learn more.

As an Aikido black belt and a life-long student of conflict resolution, I really am looking forward to this program!

Change the Interaction, Change the Outcome – Archived Program now Available for Download or Streaming

Change the Interaction, Change the Outcome – Archived Program now Available for Download or Streaming

Being Relational: The Seven Ways to Quality Interaction and Lasting Change by Louise Phipps Senft and William Senft details seven ways of being in relation to others that is grounded in over thirty years of conflict resolution experience and captures the very heart and soul of all that is self-help. These ways of being promote quality face-to-face dialogue and lasting positive change and are also inspired by the experience of thousands of people for whom the Senfts have mediated, fostering personal strength and connectedness through quality interaction. In this program, Louise and William will share insights into their practical and inspiring approach that the listeners can immediately apply to their stressful interactions as well as, check in on and grow into, as a way of being in relation to others.

 

Change the Interaction, Change the Outcome – Listen in on Tuesday 6/9 at 8 pm Eastern

Change the Interaction, Change the Outcome – Listen in on Tuesday 6/9 at 8 pm Eastern

Louise and William Senft’s new book, Being Relational: The Seven Ways to Quality Interaction and Lasting Change, details seven ways of being in relation to others that capture the heart and soul of all that is self-help, grounded in method, and supported by relational conflict theory and brain science findings. The ways of being that promote quality face-to-face dialogue and lasting positive change are rooted in teachings from many sources and are also inspired by the experience of thousands of people for whom the Senfts have mediated, fostering personal strength and connectedness through quality interaction. In this program, Louise and William will share insights into their practical and inspiring approach that the listeners can immediately apply to their stressful interactions as well as, check in on and grow into, as a way of being in relation to others. Listen in on Tuesday, 6/9 at 8 pm Eastern to learn more.

Taking the War Out of Our Words: Turning Conflict into Conversation in the Workplace – Archived Program now available

Taking the War Out of Our Words: Turning Conflict into Conversation in the Workplace – Archived Program now available

You can now download or stream my conversation with Sharon Ellison as we discuss strategies and techniques to take the war out of your words. You can hear Sharon demonstrate how defuse defensiveness, often instantly and how to use these skills whether you are talking to a co-worker or are a manager needing to give feedback to an employee.

 

 

ABA – Section of Dispute Resolution: FREE WEBINAR | Tuesday, April 28th | Register TODAY! Is Your ADR Safe? Reducing the Risk of Violence Before, During and After Sessions

ABA – Section of Dispute Resolution: FREE WEBINAR | Tuesday, April 28th | Register TODAY! Is Your ADR Safe? Reducing the Risk of Violence Before, During and After Sessions

The ABA Dispute Resolution Section, Mediation Committee is pleased to announce our second monthly teleconference of 2015. Please join us on Tuesday, April 28th at 12pm.

Many ADR professionals saw the headlines when an angry mediation participant shot two other participants (an attorney and client) at a Phoenix law firm in 2013. That tragedy is probably the most extreme recent example of violence in connection with an ADR process, but unfortunately it is not unique. In response to this concern, the Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR) established a task force to study and make recommendations on how best to promote the safety of ADR practitioners and participants. In a 45-minute webinar, task force chair Stephen Kotev will discuss the key safety advice that is covered in the 16 pages of written recommendations.

Either/Or and The Conflict Paradox – Full Archived Program Now Available

Either/Or and The Conflict Paradox – Full Archived Program Now Available

In many situations we see our decisions as an ‘either/or’ dilemma. Author and Ph.D. Bernie Mayer argues in his new book, The Conflict Paradox, Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes, that the real challenge  is to find a new path that incorporates both approaches. These apparently opposing conflict practices need not be mutually exclusive—in fact, each is necessary to the other. Listen or download the program from the player below.

 

 

Safety Planning – What Every Conflict Resolver Needs to Know – 3/25 at 6 pm Eastern

Safety Planning – What Every Conflict Resolver Needs to Know – 3/25 at 6 pm Eastern

Conflict Resolvers routinely enter into conversations and circumstances most would choose to avoid. These conversations can contain some of the strongest emotional triggers, and create the most stressful situations, that we may ever experience. Register now to attend my ADRHub webinar on safety planning that will take place on 3/25 at 6 pm Eastern. Registration is free but spots are limited.

I will discuss  how to prepare, what to ask, and what to do to care for yourself and your clients in the most dangerous of circumstances. We will also review my work as Chair of the Association for Conflict Resolution’s Task force on Safety in ADR the Recommended Guidance on Safety it created.

The full archived program of this presentation can be found on my resources page.

Either/Or and The Conflict Paradox – Listen in on 3/31 at 8 pm Eastern

Either/Or and The Conflict Paradox – Listen in on 3/31 at 8 pm Eastern

In many situations we see our decisions as an ‘either/or’ dilemma. Author and Ph.D. Bernie Mayer argues in his new book, The Conflict Paradox, Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes, that the real challenge  is to find a new path that incorporates both approaches. These apparently opposing conflict practices need not be mutually exclusive—in fact, each is necessary to the other. Listen in on March 31 at 8 pm Eastern to learn more.