Mediation

Thank You State Bar of New Mexico!

Thank You State Bar of New Mexico!

Thank you the ADR Steering Committee of the State Bar of New Mexico for inviting me to present at their 2017 ADR Institute! Along with my colleague, University of New Mexico School of Law Professor Laura Bassein, we discussed: “Is Your Dispute Resolution Safe?  Issues to Consider in Mediation and Other ADR Processes.” Mediators and attorneys from across the state learned best practices from the Association for Conflict Resolution ADR Safety Planning: Recommended Guidance along with Practical Skills for High Stress Conflicts and specific insights into the intersection of Domestic Violence and Mediation.

It was such a pleasure to work with such talented and capable Conflict Resolvers!

 

 

The Maryland Judiciary Mediation and Conflict Resolution Office (MACRO) Presents An Evening With . . . Stephen Kotev – Conflict Resolution in the Age of Trump – The Conflict Paradox of the Righteous Mind

The Maryland Judiciary Mediation and Conflict Resolution Office (MACRO) Presents An Evening With . . . Stephen Kotev –  Conflict Resolution in the Age of Trump – The Conflict Paradox of the Righteous Mind

What did we miss? How did this happen? Join me as we discuss how our moral foundations influence our outlook on politics and conflict. We will explore the work of Bernie Mayer’s The Conflict Paradox and Jonathan Haidt’s The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion and how these texts help us better understand those who hold beliefs different from our own. We’ll also examine how our own conscious and unconscious biases inform our practice as Conflict Resolvers.

When: November 13, 2017

6:00-6:30 PM gathering & light refreshments
Program begins at 6:30 & ends at 8:00 PM

 

WhereHistoric Oakland Manor

5430 Vantage Point Road Columbia, MD 21044

Ballroom

 

Click here for more info. Seating is available for up to 70 attendees.

To attend, please RSVP by Friday, November 10th by sending an email to MACRO@mdcourts.gov with the subject line “Evening With November 13th”.

Conflict Chat: Challenges of Working in a Gig Economy – Download or Stream Now

Conflict Chat: Challenges of Working in a Gig Economy – Download or Stream Now

Are you a worker taking on short projects or “gigs?” Many temporary employees and independent consultants work in a Gig Economy. As the gig economy grows so do the challenges that employers, HR managers and workers face when it comes to communication and managing conflict. We’ll also discuss “At Will’ employment and how it changes the employer’s view of conflict and how they can ‘throw the baby out with the bathwater’ by quickly terminating employees vs. taking the time to work through the issues.

Here is your opportunity to listen in, chat and ask questions of Conflict Management experts who are mediators, conflict coaches, and facilitators on how to think about, analyze or resolve your situation!

 

Conflict Chat: Challenges of Working in a Gig Economy – Listen in on 9/26 at 8 pm EST

Conflict Chat: Challenges of Working in a Gig Economy – Listen in on 9/26 at 8 pm EST

Are you a worker taking on short projects or “gigs?” Many temporary employees and independent consultants work in a Gig Economy. As the gig economy grows so do the challenges that employers, HR managers and workers face when it comes to communication and managing conflict. We’ll also discuss “At Will’ employment and how it changes the employer’s view of conflict and how they can ‘throw the baby out with the bathwater’ by quickly terminating employees vs. taking the time to work through the issues.

Here is your opportunity to listen in, chat and ask questions of Conflict Management experts who are mediators, conflict coaches, and facilitators on how to think about, analyze or resolve your situation!

 

Conflict Resolution in the Age of Trump – The Conflict Paradox of the Righteous Mind

Conflict Resolution in the Age of Trump –  The Conflict Paradox of the Righteous Mind

Please join me on Thursday, June 15 at the Center for Alternative Dispute Resolution 30th Anniversary and Annual Conference in Greenbelt, MD. I will be presenting, Conflict Resolution in the Age of Trump – The Conflict Paradox of the Righteous Mind. That explores work of Bernie Mayer’s The Conflict Paradox and Jonathan Haidt’s The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion and how these texts help us better understand those who hold beliefs different from our own. We’ll also examine how our own conscious and unconscious biases inform our practice as Conflict Resolvers.

If you are a novice mediator or a decades-old conflict resolver please come and join us to discuss this important topic!

Will Work for Peace – How to Get a Job as a Peacemaker – Archived Program Now Available for Download or Streaming

Will Work for Peace – How to Get a Job as a Peacemaker – Archived Program Now Available for Download or Streaming

Do you want to be a Peacemaker? You can now download or stream my recent conversation with David J. Smith as we discussed how to find opportunities to work for peace in almost any job. Whether it is thinking differently about the job you have or what types of jobs are out there – there are opportunities to work for peace!

 

The Association for Conflict Resolution and Verbal Atemi

The Association for Conflict Resolution and Verbal Atemi

I head out this week to attend the Association for Conflict Resolution 2016 Annual Conference in Baltimore, Maryland. The Association for Conflict Resolution is one of the largest membership associations for conflict resolution professionals. ACR serves mediator, negotiators, ombuds, educators, academics and peacemakers from across the country and internationally.

I’ll be presenting on the concept of verbal atemi, that has it’s origins in Japanese martial arts. Mark Andres give a great examples of this in his book Sweet Fruit from the Bitter Tree. The idea in is to say or do something that unbalances your attacker. You don’t want to make them angry, just confused – and in the confusion redirect their attention and intention:

Please join us at ACR this week and feel free to stop by and say hello if you are. I’ll be presenting on Friday morning.

All the best and see you there!

Stephen

Current Events Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter and Stephen Kotev – Listen in on 9/27 at 8 pm Eastern

Current Events Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter and Stephen Kotev – Listen in on 9/27 at 8 pm Eastern

Got Conflict? If you have a conflict with someone and are not sure how to handle it, then let us know. Here is your opportunity to ask your question with Conflict Management experts who are mediators, conflict coaches and facilitators on how to think about, analyze or resolve your situation.

Think about it. Are you currently engaged in an active conflict with your co-workers or boss? Ignoring your neighbor because of a conversation you don’t want to have? In a disagreement with your spouse? Or simply afraid to bring up a concern with a friend in fear of stirring up problems.

Join us live. Here is how:

  • Call 347-324-3591; press 1 and wait for a Host
  • Use the Reply box below to post your question or conflict situation
  • Join us in the chat room live at Blog Talk Radio on the night of the program. Post your comment or question here and we will bring it into the program.
  • Join our Live Twitter chat using #ConflictChat every Tuesday night at 5 pm Pacific/7pm Central/8 pm Eastern

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – Now available for Download or Streaming

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – Now available for Download or Streaming

You can now download or stream my conversation with Luke Archer from the player below. We discussed how Verbal Aikido is a means of communication that enables the practitioner to transform verbal attacks, both effectively and peacefully. This philosophy comes from the Japanese martial art of Aikido that seeks to transform ‘attackers’ into training partners. It’s a fun and easy-to-learn approach that can be learnt from ages as young as 5 years old. Regular practice of Verbal Aikido considerably increases self-esteem, altruism and the confidence to manage conflict in a self-affirming and harmonious manner.

As an Aikido black belt and life-long student of conflict resolution, I deeply enjoyed this conversation – and I hope you do too.

 

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – 8/23 at 8 pm Eastern

Verbal Aikido – Manage Verbal Attacks Peacefully and Effectively – 8/23 at 8 pm Eastern

Verbal Aikido is a means of communication that enables the practitioner to transform verbal attacks, both effectively and peacefully. This philosophy comes from the Japanese martial art of Aikido that seeks to transform ‘attackers’ into training partners. It’s a fun and easy-to-learn approach that can be learnt from ages as young as 5 years old. Regular practice of Verbal Aikido considerably increases self-esteem, altruism and the confidence to manage conflict in a self-affirming and harmonious manner. Listen in on Tuesday, August 23rd at 8 pm Eastern to learn more.

As an Aikido black belt and a life-long student of conflict resolution, I really am looking forward to this program!