Tonight’s program focuses on how our morals foundations influence our political beliefs. These foundations can be used to divide us or bring us together. Tracy King and I discuss how both the Liberals and Conservatives miss understand the true concerns of those across the aisle and what we can do to help heal this division.
So contentious presidential election is finally over with! It is either the best or worst day for America for some of us. Some will gloat over the win, others exhibit anger for the loss, or maybe we just keep our mouth shut so as not to engage in conflict? So how do you talk to your friends, co-workers, and family about politics and not get burned in the process? Learn how two conflict resolution experts, Pattie Porter and Stephen Kotev,help others say what they really mean and hear what really matters from those they don’t agree with.
I’ll be presenting on the concept of verbal atemi, that has it’s origins in Japanese martial arts. Mark Andres give a great examples of this in his book Sweet Fruit from the Bitter Tree. The idea in is to say or do something that unbalances your attacker. You don’t want to make them angry, just confused – and in the confusion redirect their attention and intention:
Please join us at ACR this week and feel free to stop by and say hello if you are. I’ll be presenting on Friday morning.
Think about it. Are you currently engaged in an active conflict with your co-workers or boss? Ignoring your neighbor because of a conversation you don’t want to have? In a disagreement with your spouse? Or simply afraid to bring up a concern with a friend in fear of stirring up problems.
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You can now download or stream my conversation with Luke Archer from the player below. We discussed how Verbal Aikido is a means of communication that enables the practitioner to transform verbal attacks, both effectively and peacefully. This philosophy comes from the Japanese martial art of Aikido that seeks to transform ‘attackers’ into training partners. It’s a fun and easy-to-learn approach that can be learnt from ages as young as 5 years old. Regular practice of Verbal Aikido considerably increases self-esteem, altruism and the confidence to manage conflict in a self-affirming and harmonious manner.
As an Aikido black belt and life-long student of conflict resolution, I deeply enjoyed this conversation – and I hope you do too.
This is a fascinating topic that I strongly recommend anyone who wants to improve their problem solving skills to attend. Understanding how these paradoxes influence our behavior and outlook is absolutely instrumental to becoming a better leader and conflict resolver.
In this week’s conflict chat we discussed the tragic death of New Orleans Saints star defensive end Will Smith and what happens to you when someone becomes emotionally hijacked. Listen in to learn how to better control these responses and better avoid classic mistakes when dealing with emotional and upset people.
Helping people resolve problems and improve their performance under stressful circumstances is Stephen’s passion and profession. With a Masters degree in Conflict Analysis and Resolution from George Mason’s Institute for Conflict Analysis and Resolution, Stephen has substantial experience in mediation, negotiation, facilitation, conflict coaching, conflict management and somatic education. His professional experience spans state and federal government agencies and two premier conflict resolution membership associations. Stephen has also become a national expert on how you can improve your performance by better managing the stress of conflict situations. He has taught hundreds the somatic skills they needed to remain calm in stressful conflict situations as an adjunct faculty member of the School of Conflict Analysis and Resolution at George Mason University and through seminars that he has presented at conferences nationwide.
Specialties: Stephen presents workshops nationally and internationally that teach problem solvers how to improve their performance by learning to better manage the stress of conflict situations through the development of somatic (body) skills focused on breath, posture, and vision and the cultivation of self-awareness. These skills originate from the Japanese martial art of Aikido and have been used by martial artists, executives, law enforcement, athletes and professionals to remain calm in the midst of the storm.