Somatic Skills

Thank You State Bar of New Mexico!

Thank You State Bar of New Mexico!

Thank you the ADR Steering Committee of the State Bar of New Mexico for inviting me to present at their 2017 ADR Institute! Along with my colleague, University of New Mexico School of Law Professor Laura Bassein, we discussed: “Is Your Dispute Resolution Safe?  Issues to Consider in Mediation and Other ADR Processes.” Mediators and attorneys from across the state learned best practices from the Association for Conflict Resolution ADR Safety Planning: Recommended Guidance along with Practical Skills for High Stress Conflicts and specific insights into the intersection of Domestic Violence and Mediation.

It was such a pleasure to work with such talented and capable Conflict Resolvers!

 

 

Conflict Chat ….When Leaders Crash Creating Toxic Workplaces – Archived Program

Conflict Chat ….When Leaders Crash Creating Toxic Workplaces – Archived Program

This week’s program discussed how a leader’s inability to regulate their anger can lead to a toxic workplace. We examined how Uber’s CEO missed opportunities to build trust, solve problems and avoid a large amount of negative publicity – due to his lack of conflict competency. If Travis Kalanick was better able to listen to the concerns of others and truly understand their concerns, he would be a much more effective leader. Because he was unable or unwilling to do this, he publicly stated that he needed to grow up and fundamentally change.

 

Georgetown bound!

Georgetown bound!

I am pleased to announce that I have been accepted into Georgetown University’s Leadership Coaching Certification Program! I am looking forward to making new friends, expanding my skillset and deepening my knowledge of coaching. Georgetown offers a comprehensive, insightful and challenging program that I have been interested attending in for years.

 

My ultimate goal is to acquire International Coaching Federation certification. As a life-long conflict resolver, I deal with leaders all the time. As the field of conflict resolution matures, so does its integration of coaching skillsets. I am quite interested in this intersection and how my expertise in somatics can be applied to coaching.

 

I should be in for quite an adventure – and I am looking forward to it.

The Conflict Paradox: Seven Dilemmas We Must Understand To Resolve Conflict

The Conflict Paradox: Seven Dilemmas We Must Understand To Resolve Conflict

This week I will be presenting at the National Center for ADR’s annual conference in Greenbelt, MD. I will be discussing Bernie Mayer’s new book The Conflict Paradox: Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes and how those paradoxes affect how we understand and respond to problems.

This is a fascinating topic that I strongly recommend anyone who wants to improve their problem solving skills to attend. Understanding how these paradoxes influence our behavior and outlook is absolutely instrumental to becoming a better leader and conflict resolver.

4/26 Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter, Stephen Kotev and Abigail R. C. McManus is now available for download and streaming

4/26 Conflict Chat with….Pattie Porter, Stephen Kotev and Abigail R. C. McManus is now available for download and streaming

In this week’s conflict chat we discussed the tragic death of New Orleans Saints star defensive end Will Smith and what happens to you when someone becomes emotionally hijacked. Listen in to learn how to better control these responses and better avoid classic mistakes when dealing with emotional and upset people.

 

Is Your ADR Safe? Reducing the Risk of Violence Before, During and After Sessions

Is Your ADR Safe? Reducing the Risk of Violence Before, During and After Sessions

Later on this week I will be presenting at the 18th annual American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution spring conference in New York, New York. My colleague, Susan Yates of the Resolution Systems Institute, and I will be presenting our work on safety and safety planning to advocates, lawyers, arbitrators, mediators and other conference attendees.

We look forward as well to seeing old friends and colleagues, making new ones and advancing our field. This conference is an excellent opportunity to stay abreast of current developments, best practices, and innovations central to the ADR field. I am honored to be presenting to such an experience and esteemed audience. Please do stop by and say hello if you are in town.

All the best,

Stephen

De-Escalation Techniques to Avoid Violence in the Dispute Resolution Process – 12/18 – Columbus, Ohio

De-Escalation Techniques to Avoid Violence in the Dispute Resolution Process – 12/18 – Columbus, Ohio

On December 18th, I’ll be giving a presentation for the Columbus Bar Association on De-Escalation Techniques to Avoid Violence in the Dispute Resolution Process. I am honored to be co-presenting with a member of the Columbus Police Department’s Crisis Negotiation team as we discuss ADR/conflict resolution safety best practices and the art and science of verbal de-escalation: http://www.cbalaw.org/cba_prod/files/cle/151218OT.pdf

Agenda:

9:00-10:30am: ADR Safety Planning: How to Handle Yourself
Overview of Conflict Resolution Safety Planning Recommended Guidance
The Fundamentals of Creating Your Own Safety Plan
Dealing with High Emotion Conflicts

10:30-10:45am: Break

10:45am-12:15pm: The Art and Science of Verbal De-Escalation in Crisis Situations: How to Handle Others
Proven Verbal Techniques to Deal with Crisis Situations
How to Remain Calm and Get Results
How Learning what the Hostage Negotiation Team Does Can Help You

Somatic Skills for Conflict Resolvers Offered at the University of Waterloo

Somatic Skills for Conflict Resolvers Offered at the University of Waterloo

This week I will have the great pleasure of teaching somatic skills to conflict resolvers from the University of Waterloo and Conrad Grebel University College. This workshop is being offered in conjunction with Grebel’s Certificate in Conflict Management with participants from across the public, private and educational sectors.

As a graduate of Conrad Grebel and the University of Waterloo, I feel honored to have this opportunity. Especially since, I will also have the pleasure of speaking at Conrad Grebel’s community supper. The topic of my talk will be on embodied peace and how to utilize somatics to become the ‘calm in the midst of the storm.’ It is a wonderful feeling to contribute to the long standing commitment to peace that these two institutions embrace.

Safety Planning – What Every Conflict Resolver Needs to Know – 3/25 at 6 pm Eastern

Safety Planning – What Every Conflict Resolver Needs to Know – 3/25 at 6 pm Eastern

Conflict Resolvers routinely enter into conversations and circumstances most would choose to avoid. These conversations can contain some of the strongest emotional triggers, and create the most stressful situations, that we may ever experience. Register now to attend my ADRHub webinar on safety planning that will take place on 3/25 at 6 pm Eastern. Registration is free but spots are limited.

I will discuss  how to prepare, what to ask, and what to do to care for yourself and your clients in the most dangerous of circumstances. We will also review my work as Chair of the Association for Conflict Resolution’s Task force on Safety in ADR the Recommended Guidance on Safety it created.

The full archived program of this presentation can be found on my resources page.

Virginia Mediation Network Keynote Address – Mediator Safety 101

Virginia Mediation Network Keynote Address – Mediator Safety 101

This Saturday, I will have the honor and privilege of delivering the keynote address to the 2014 Annual Spring Training Conference of the Virginia Mediation Network. The Virginia Mediation Network is the state’s largest mediation membership association. Its mission is to promote public understanding of conflict resolution services and provide its members with interdisciplinary knowledge and skills and a community to enhance their professional success.

The topic of this address will be: Mediator Safety 101: What Every Mediator Needs to Know to Stay Safe in Our Dangerous Times

Fueled by my work as the Chair of the Association for Conflict Resolution Taskforce on Safety in ADR, this keynote will highlight key safety planning and risk reduction strategies. Mediators are routinely asked to enter into conversations and circumstances most would choose to avoid. These conversations can contain some of the strongest emotional triggers, and create the most stressful situations, that we may ever experience.

I hope you will join me this Saturday to learn how to prepare, what to ask, and what to do to care for yourself and your clients in the most dangerous of circumstances.